What happens when we fall in love? The older I get, the more a neurologist’s explanation of chemicals, pictures, and chance becomes increasingly satisfying. Why? Whenever I get close with somebody, my defenses get the best of me and some bad choices will push them away. Sometimes it happens quickly and other times it takes years but it happens. Maybe this is just some half cracked logic to trick myself into allowing attachment to happen but hey, if it works, why not? How about this? Instead of considering that we fall in love with another person, we instead picture ourselves falling in love with a moment. Lightning strikes, we have what seems to be clarity and for minute, maybe even days or years, we feel lighter. If an attractive physical body happens to be nearby when this happens, that feeling then becomes associated with another physical body. Later we might find that our physical bodies share multiple trajectories sparking additional moments of clarity. We fall in love all over again which in all likelihood is subconsciously recognized familiarity of a situation. If at some point, another body leaves or abuses us when we need them most, our subconscious prevents this association from happening but we can trick it right? Because we are falling in love with the moment and just happen to be together. No, we may never fall in love like most stories tell us too but we can still fall in love together if we set the scene and simply choose to stay together. And I won’t leave no matter how much your actions may tell me to at times okay, this is a pinky swear.
